Any holiday after a loss can be difficult, but living through the holiday meant for celebrating romance when you’ve just experienced a breakup can feel torturous. The good news is, it doesn’t have to be and you will survive it, and with the help of our tips, we’re hoping you can even enjoy it!
1. Nurture your relationship with yourself. No matter what falls apart in your life, you can always come back to yourself and grow from there. When you engage in the kind of self care that nourishes your soul, you’re improving your mental health, your wellbeing, and every single relationship you have and will have in the future.
2. Don’t neglect the other relationships in your life. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be reserved only for romantic relationships. Take some time to connect with your friends, siblings, children, parents and coworkers. Celebrate all relationships.
3. Plan your day in advance. To set yourself up for success on this Valentine’s Day, we recommend you do some planning instead of winging it and hoping it goes well. Whether you plan a Galentine’s dinner with your friends or get take out and watch a movie solo, plan the details in advance to avoid the disappointment of your friends already having plans or your favorite restaurant not doing deliveries that night.
4. Honor your feelings, but don’t get stuck in them. It’s natural to feel some sadness and loss on this day, when everyone else seems to be celebrating their relationship. Know that it’s normal, acknowledge your emotions and don’t try to ignore them completely. You can, however, also choose to engage in activities that will distract or take you away from the difficult emotions even if it’s for small chunks of your day.
5. Schedule some feel good moments. Plan for some activities that will help take you away from any negative feelings you might have. Wake up with a meditation, ask a colleague to go out for coffee, go for a walk during your break.